This weekend I’m skiing into a backcountry cabin with a group of friends.
We’re leaving our children with our spouses and venturing out into the wild unknown.
Sure, we’ll only be a few miles from our SUV’s parked at the trailhead. The cabin has beds, a woodstove and propane lights but it will be an adventure nonetheless. It always is when you get a group of awesome and fun women together.
But I’ve gotta be honest.
I’m tired! The thought of packing my gear, loading my car, skiing into a cabin and then hoping to get a few hours of sleep doesn’t sound like an epic weekend right now.
When I booked the cabin 6 months ago I must have felt well-rested.
But the past few months have been busy. Too busy. Between scheduling our summer backcountry navigation classes for Just Trails, working my part-time job (that seems more like a full-time job some days) and finding sponsors for our summer hiking challenge I haven’t had much spare time.
Did I mention that I also have a goal to publish 3 e-books and 2 online courses by June 1st? I’ve been super disciplined with my time and very focused. I’m on track to meet my deadlines but it’s been a lot of work.
I’m also trying to sell a house and renew leases/find renters for the small property management company we run and trying to keep up with a preschooler and toddler. Oh, and sometimes I like to hang out with my husband too 😉
But here’s the deal.
We’re ALL busy. We’re ALL tired. We get up too early, go to bed too late and crawl into bed exhausted at the end of the day.
My life might look different than yours in terms of my daily activities. But I imagine that you’re just as (if not more) busy than me.
Last summer I had a similar feeling.
It was the end of the summer and summers are crazy for us, it’s just the nature of running a small seasonal business. And I was tired. Again.
But I’d planned a trip to Colorado to climb a couple of 14ers with the same group of friends. I couldn’t cancel and I wanted to go even though I was so exhausted. So I went and we had an amazing time. We didn’t get much (if any sleep), we worked hard to bag some big peaks and I came home physically exhausted but mentally refreshed and emotionally rejuvenated.
And here’s why.
Outdoor women need each other.
- We need to spend time with women who build us up, not put us down. When we do challenging activities with our friends the support and encouragement that we give one another happens naturally.
- We need to spend time with women who “get us”–women who aren’t freaked out by the thought of pooping in the woods or not taking a shower.
- I don’t live near my mom or sister, and they are two of my very best friends. In a way these relationships that I’ve built with women in my community are a home-away-from-home, they fill that emotional gap when I can’t be around my family.
- I work from home and a lot of my friends have either put their careers on hold to stay home with young children or they work from home too. There’s a lot of support there when it comes down to talking about things that my husband has no interest in, like cooking fast, easy wholesome meals and how to budget our time.
- Outdoor women can be honest with each other. I can bounce ideas off of my friends when we’re in the midst of an outdoor adventure and expect honest feedback provided in a kind way. That’s a good thing because I have a lot of crazy ideas and this feedback is important to me.
- Our outdoor-lovin’ spouses need us to get away every once in a while too. I’m home with my kids all day long while my husband is at school. I think it’s good for him and my boys to have some time together where they can roam around the house wearing nothing but their underpants and eating ice cream out of the carton.
What I’m trying to say is this.
Grab a group of your best friends, or even strangers from your local hiking group.
Reserve a campsite, book a cabin or a yurt.
Plan a hike, or a river trip, or a snowshoe adventure.
Research a trail, find a cool place to go.
Grab your pack, toss some food, clothing and gear into it.
Don’t be too busy or too tired. Don’t worry about leaving your partner or kids alone for the weekend. Don’t worry about missing emails as they pop into your inbox or a phone call from your boss. It’ll all be okay, and the relationships that you make on a trip with the girls will last a lifetime.
I’m skiing to the cabin for the weekend.
It’s going to be epic.
I’m turning off my computer and leaving it at home (I do have some social media posts pre-scheduled though…).
I’m doing it because I need to relax and to rest.
I’m doing it because I love spending time with my friends and I haven’t gotten to do a lot of that lately.
I’m going because I need to take care of me, and the best place to do that is in a pristine, snow covered forest.
And I think that you need to do the exact same thing.
You need to plan a girls weekend, trust me on this one.
(p.s. this little article I wrote for Sierra Trading Post last fall might help and if you’re looking to buy a house or rent an apartment in Laramie, Wyoming let me know!)
Why do you think it’s important to plan a girls weekend? Leave us a comment below or on our facebook page.